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The Four Phases and Tasks of Grief

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The Four Phases and Tasks of Grief

Post by Candlelight.kk on 21st April 2017, 15:41

(originally posted on 25 Oct 2010 07:18 pm )

The Four Phases and Tasks of Grief


Grief is deeply personal. Although four phases and tasks of grief have been identified, everyone will move through them differently. You may move through the phases quickly or slowly; you may move through them in a different order; you may skip a phase or task altogether. However you move through the grieving process will be the right way for YOU.

The Four Phases

The stages of grief can be divided into four distinct phases:


1. Numbness – This is the phase immediately following a loss. The grieving person feels numb, which is a defense mechanism that allows them to survive emotionally.

2. Searching and Yearning – This can also be referred to as pining and is characterized by the grieving person longing or yearning for the deceased to return. Many emotions are expressed during this time and may include weeping, anger, anxiety, and confusion.

3. Disorganization and Despair – The grieving person now desired to withdraw and disengage from others and activities they regularly enjoyed. Feelings of pining and yearning become less intense while periods of apathy, meaning an absence of emotion, and despair increase.

4. Reorganization and Recovery – In this final phase, the grieving person begins to return to a new state of “normal”. Weight loss experienced during intense grieving may be regained, energy levels increase, and an interest to return to activities of enjoyment returns. Grief never ends but thoughts of sadness and despair are diminished while positive memories of the deceased take over.

Because everyone grieves in their own way at their own pace, there is no timeline that these phases are supposed to be completed in. Receiving bereavement counseling and joining bereavement support groups can help the grieving individual move through the phases fluidly.
The Four Tasks

There are specific tasks of mourning that need to be accomplished in order for mourning to be completed. The concept of tasks implies that effort on the part of the individual is required. These tasks are:

1. Accept the Reality of the Loss – Coming full face with the reality that the person is dead and will not return is the first task that needs to be completed. Without accomplishing this, the grieving person will not be able to continue through the mourning process.

2. Work Through the Pain – Grief is painful, physically and emotionally. It is important to acknowledge the pain and not suppress it.

3. Adjust to the New Environment in Which the Deceased is Missing – This may require adjusting to the roles that the deceased once carried out. If it is a spouse that has died, it required the bereaved to accept their new identity as a widow.

4. Emotionally Relocate the Deceased and Move On – While the bereaved will never be compelled to totally give up on the relationship, the goal is to find an appropriate place in their emotional lives for the deceased. This requires a letting go of attachments so new relationships can begin to form.

Completing these tasks will help the bereaved come to terms with their loss and return to a new state of normalcy. Again, involvement in bereavement support groups or seeking grief counseling can help individuals move through the tasks. Palliative care and hospice programs integrate bereavement care into their comprehensive approach to care. Take advantage of the services they have to offer you.

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Common Problems: End of Life Care by Barry M. Kinzbrunner, Neal J. Weinreb, and Joel S. Policzer


Read more: http://dying.about.com/od/thegrievingpr ... _tasks.htm
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Re: The Four Phases and Tasks of Grief

Post by Stardust on 21st April 2017, 15:42

Even years later we can still be suddenly engulfed by grief and the pain returns, plunging us into black despair for hours at a time and sometimes it takes days to recover. Something or someone triggers a memory and there we go again, reliving the loss as if it just occurred. Even smiling at the happy memories is not always enough to ease our grief. It can overwhelm us at any time.

That's part of the 'price' we pay for love.



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Re: The Four Phases and Tasks of Grief

Post by merlin on 21st April 2017, 15:45

I am not one that does grieve like some, but there are many times when I do get sad, thinking of what might have been, getting old together, her seeing her grandchildren, sharing what we worked for.
Our loved ones would not want us to be miserable for the rest of our lives but it does not stop us missing them.
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Re: The Four Phases and Tasks of Grief

Post by Feather on 21st April 2017, 15:47

stardust, once more you have hit the nail on the head. Four years on and I still have days when such a feeling of desperation comes over me to see and talk with my deceased loved ones that it is almost unbearable. I did have a period of numbness which lasted about 6 weeks but then I went to pieces at the awful certainty of what had happened. I couldn't bring myself to leave the house, I suffered the most horrid panic attacks, I was terrified of the weeks, months and years ahead of me, I was a physical and mental wreck. The weight dropped off me, I had no energy and I couldn't even take a shower for 3 weeks.
I just sat around the house in my night clothes and let my sons take over stuff like the washing, cooking etc. Thank goodness that has passed but, as sammi said, those days of hopeless longing still return now. I do have a freedom which I never had before and I'm thankful for the good times I've had as a result but I would give all of that up just to have those departed souls back with me again.



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Re: The Four Phases and Tasks of Grief

Post by aussiepom on 21st April 2017, 15:49

I too went through all the stages of grief when my husband passed away over 5 years ago.
The effect of grief turns one into something like a robot.
I neither felt or lived through that time.
I was completely numb.

My first hint of life after death was hearing his voice,two weeks after he passed.
Plainly in my right ear,speaking my 'nickname',twice this was repeated.
I received my proof that he was 'alive'.
Wonderful.
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