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Support others with your presence

Post by Candlelight.kk on Fri 19 May 2017, 11:43 am

04 Jun 2012, 10:47

"The purpose of therapy is not to remove suffering but TO MOVE THROUGH IT to an enlarged consciousness that can sustain the polarity of painful opposites."

-- James Hollis

How do we support others who are suffering?

When we understand how soul works through us, we begin to see how pain generates the impulse to change. We see that our aim in supporting someone is NOT to get rid of their pain and suffering. Instead, we want to assist them to understand what the pain is trying to teach them -- to find meaning in their distress.

Often, all we need do is be fully present to them. It also helps to be present to our own experience and genuine in our feelings. Living our own truth helps create the space for the other person to live theirs.

"The first duty of love is to listen."

-- Paul Tillich

"With the gift of listening comes the gift of healing."

-- Catherine de Hueck Doherty
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Re: Support others with your presence

Post by Stardust on Fri 19 May 2017, 11:45 am

03 Jul 2012, 15:41

Sometimes just sitting quietly with someone suffering pain or going through a stressful situation is enough to bring comfort.

Too often people keep away because they don't know what to say, but words are not essential. Holding their hand, without need of speech on either side, letting them know you're there for them, is what's most important.

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Re: Support others with your presence

Post by Candlelight.kk on Fri 19 May 2017, 11:46 am

08 Jul 2012, 18:06

So true, Stardust. Very often, the silent (but visual) comforter is the most effective.

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