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EMPATHY - Are you an Empath?

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EMPATHY - Are you an Empath?

Post by Candlelight.kk on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:02

(originally posted on 21 Jan 2008)


Empathy is the ability to read and understand people and be in-tune with or resonate with others, voluntarily or involuntarily of one's empath capacity.

Empaths have the ability to scan another's psyche for thoughts and feelings or for past, present, and future life occurrences. Many empaths are unaware of how this actually works, and have long accepted that they were sensitive to others.

Empathy is a feeling of another's true emotions to a point where an empath can relate to that person by sensing true feelings that run deeper than those portrayed on the surface. People commonly put on a show of expression. This is a learned trait of hiding authentic expression in an increasingly demanding society.

An empath can sense the truth behind the cover and will act compassionately to help that person express him/herself, thus making them feel at ease and not so desperately alone.

Empaths experience empathy towards family, children, friends, close associates, complete strangers, pets, plants and inanimate objects. Empathy is not held by time or space. Thus, an empath can feel the emotions of people and things at a distance. Some are empathic towards animals (ie: The Horse Whisperer), to nature, to the planetary system, to mechanical devices or to buildings etc. Others will have a combination of the above.

Empaths are highly sensitive. This is the term commonly used in describing one's abilities (sensitivity) to another's emotions and feelings. Empaths have a deep sense of knowing that accompanies empathy and are often compassionate, considerate, and understanding of others.

There are also varying levels of strength in empaths which may be related to the individuals awareness of self, understanding of the powers of empathy, and/or the acceptance or non-acceptance of empathy by those associated with them, including family and peers. Generally, those who are empathic grow up with these tendencies and do not learn about them until later in life.

Empathy is genetic, inherent in our DNA, and passed from generation to generation. It is studied both by traditional science and alternative healing practitioners.

Empathy has both biological/genetic and spiritual aspects.

Empaths often possess the ability to sense others on many different levels. From their position in observing what another is saying, feeling and thinking, they come to understand another.

They can become very proficient at reading another persons body language and/or study intently the eye movements. While this in itself is not empathy, it is a side-shoot that comes from being observant of others.

In a sense, empaths have a complete communication package.

While there is much we don't yet understand about how empathy works, we do have some information. Everything has an energetic vibration or frequency and an empath is able to sense these vibrations and recognize even the subtlest changes undetectable to the naked eye or the five senses.

Words of expression hold an energetic pattern that originates from the speaker. They have a specific meaning particular to the speaker. Behind that expression is a power or force-field, better known as energy. For example, hate often brings about an intense feeling that immediately accompanies the word. The word hate becomes strengthened with the speaker's feeling. It is that person's feelings (energy) that are picked up by empaths, whether the words are spoken, thought or just felt without verbal or bodily expression.

Empaths are often poets in motion.

They are the born writers, singers, and artists with a high degree of creativity and imagination. They are known for many talents as their interests are varied, broad and continual, loving, loyal and humorous.

They often have interests in many cultures and view them with a broad-minded perspective. They are mother, father, child, friend, nurse, caregiver, teacher, doctor, sales people... to psychic, clairvoyant, healer, etc. (That is not to say that any of these categories are all empaths.)

The list is extensive and really unimportant. It is more important to notice that empaths are everywhere--in every culture and throughout the world.

Empaths are often very affectionate in personality and expression, great listeners and counselors (and not just in the professional area).

They will find themselves helping others and often putting their own needs aside to do so.

In the same breath, they can be much the opposite. They may be quiet, withdrawn from the outside world, loners, depressed, neurotic, lifes daydreamers, or even narcissistic.

They are most often passionate towards nature and respect its bountiful beauty. One will often find empaths enjoying the outdoors, beaches, walking, etc. Empaths may find themselves continually drawn to nature as a form of release. It is the opportune place to recapture their senses and gain a sense of peace in the hectic lives they may live.

The time to get away from it all and unwind with nature becomes essential to the empath. Animals are often dear to the heart of empaths, not as a power object, but as a natural love. It is not uncommon for empaths to have more than one pet in their homes.


Traits of an Empath

Empaths are often quiet and can take a while to handle a compliment for they're more inclined to point out another's positive attributes. They are highly expressive in all areas of emotional connection, and talk openly, and, at times, quite frankly in respect to themselves. They may have few problems talking about their feelings.

However, they can be the exact opposite: reclusive and apparently unresponsive at the best of times. They may even appear ignorant. Some are very good at blocking out others and that's not always a bad thing, at least for the learning empath struggling with a barrage of emotions from others, as well as their own feelings.

Empaths have a tendency to openly feel what is outside of them more so than what is inside of them. This can cause empaths to ignore their own needs.

In general an empath is non-violent, non-aggressive and leans more towards being the peacemaker. Any area filled with disharmony creates an uncomfortable feeling in an empath. If they find themselves in the middle of a confrontation, they will endeavor to settle the situation as quickly as possible, if not avoid it all together. If any harsh words are expressed in defending themselves, they will likely resent their lack of self-control, and have a preference to peacefully resolve the problem quickly.

Empaths are sensitive to TV, videos, movies, news and broadcasts. Violence or emotional dramas depicting shocking scenes of physical or emotional pain inflicted on adults, children or animals can bring an empath easily to tears. At times, they may feel physically ill or choke back the tears.

Some empaths will struggle to comprehend any such cruelty, and will have grave difficulty in expressing themselves in the face of another's ignorance, closed-mindedness and obvious lack of compassion. They simply cannot justify the suffering they feel and see.

People of all walks of life and animals are attracted to the warmth and genuine compassion of empaths. Regardless of whether others are aware of one being empathic, people are drawn to them as a metal object is to a magnet! They are like beacons of light.

Even complete strangers find it easy to talk to empaths about the most personal things, and before they know it, they have poured out their hearts and souls without intending to do so consciously.

It is as though on a sub-conscious level that person knows instinctively that empaths would listen with compassionate understanding.

Here are the listeners of life. Empaths are often problem solvers, thinkers, and studiers of many things.

As far as empaths are concerned, where a problem is, so too is the answer.

They often will search until they find one -if only for peace of mind.
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Re: EMPATHY - Are you an Empath?

Post by lar-lar on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:06

as i read this..a quick feeling of pain come to me..about chris.One of his problems is his lack of empathy and caused me many days of distress.Im well aware there are alsorts of people who dont have it much but when you experience it close-hand and really understand the complications, its a different story.The good news is he's on the way up with this all the time...and my work with him on this is to explain...sooooooo often...other peoples feelings etc.
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Re: EMPATHY - Are you an Empath?

Post by Candlelight.kk on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:07

Oh, I'm so sorry for your pain Lar-Lar.  I got an insight into what you must have to endure - when I watched that film "After Thomas" and the anguish of his mother in particular not being able to give and receive the hugs that she so yearned for, or to hear the words I love you mummy.  It was heart-breaking.  But happily there was a breakthrough there, and was so wonderful to experience  ... and all down to the family dog Thomas...  I so hope you can get to see that film, Lar-Lar, as the parallel was so likened to your own experiences and with such a positive outcome ...  Keep a lookout for it. I will too.  Maybe can find something on Google about it.
Lots of (((hugs))) being sent your way.  You DESERVE them - for sooo many reasons xxxxxxxxxx

PS:  Sending you a positive karma point as well to go with your (((((((HUGS))))))   Smile  Smile

PPS:  I tried but don't know how to do it  Sad   [HELP!]  Voldsy ...  how do I give karma and do a comment with it? 
I thought you just had to click on the 'plus' sign for that person???
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Re: EMPATHY - Are you an Empath?

Post by lar-lar on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:09

ahhh,thanks kk,life is getting easier all the time,was only a few months ago he started to tell me he loved me and want to accept more cuddles.Its difficult when theres no physical disability to be seen and his iq is normal and many a time his behaviour is normal.Its very complex though,far more than i ever thought!

back to empathy,mine grew with my experiences ive had,ive always had a natural empathy,one experience where mine grew was when i worked with the elderly,often with disabilities and the dying.I found elderly people beautiful,so giving and caring despite their sufferings.They gave my heart and soul something that i thank them forever,they gave me acceptance full stop,love and care.

For three and a half years,five-six nights a week,i visited an 96 yr old man[96 when he passed]i never realised how attached i would become to 'my' people.This man and his wife[passed after him,3 yrs later]was practically bed-bound in his last weeks of his life.One night,as the daniel odonnell was playing on his cassette,he asked me if he could dance.Jesus,i was thinking,this man could barely stand up! I struggled to get him up and clung on to him tight and we danced for five minutes.He was blind also.His mind and also his wife's were very sharp and witty.He never complained at all.

I was the last person he spoke to.I put him to bed and said goodnight and kissed him.His last words were 'god bless'.I went home and within the hour he passed.

I thought this job was going to cost me my job.I was called in the office and asked not to behave 'inappropriately'.
My crime? sometimes i went beyond my time with them..my time..not theirs,i had done my work,signed off and sometimes stayed longer if they needed a chat.Sometimes i stayed hours longer,and bought us a chinese[this was for a different woman].I went round many a time on my nights off,painted their nails that they couldnt do and fixed their hair.In my work hours,i did everything by the book.This is what i told them and stood up to them.I knew i couldnt really be fired on these grounds.So back to empathy here,i could feel what it was like to be lonely,feel what it was like to to want to smile and laugh and i put myself in their shoes,one day,i'll be old too.

I went to their funerals,cried buckets and still miss them all.

ps one more quickie about this job.. i had to put on a lady's artificial leg,she knew it was my first time,and i forgot to put the soft socket on first to her knee,i poked a spike in her knee! Embarassed didnt hurt her,she laughed like mad,thank god!
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Re: EMPATHY - Are you an Empath?

Post by liz on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:10

I think you are so wonderful and caring people you seem to take everything in your stride and nothing seems to phase you out,I wish I had your patience or even only half of it,I have to keep talking to my dad who I told you passed away donkey years ago to help give me patience with my mum,(bless her),for when your with them 24/7 it can be so hard work,but as you said we are all going to get old and don't know what we will be like,
    The only thing I hope for I don't get selfish with my old age but we don't know what life will throw at us we just have to accept it,
My mum is a lovely lady and she is a lady, a very quite private person who still has her friends from school those that are still living and she is 88 this year,but she can be so demanding sometime,thats when I talk to my dad to give me patience he must be laughing his socks off at me and my mum,
     She watches Jeremy Kyle in the morning thenTricia then she will watch Jeremy again in the afternoon the same as what was in the morning I say you seen that this morning she will say she never so she will watch it again,I think to my self what a wonderful world lol
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Re: EMPATHY - Are you an Empath?

Post by lar-lar on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:12

oh liz,try and not be hard on yourself about your mother.You live with it and you know it and fact is,people do get on our nerves.If i lived near my mother,she would drive me insane and to be honest,i dont think i could cover up with her very well.She also repeats herself non-stop,we are completely different and its easy for me to bite my lip with her as she dont live near me.

I dont want to come across as a saint.im really not.i have my bad days with chris,when my patience,tolerance goes out of the window completely.i feel ashamed.what im good at is being realistic and getting back on track.I remind myself that life is tough at the moment and he would wear anyone out..and i forgive myself for yelling.

But i flaw again and again..and i have the guilt and again i remind myself that overall im doing a good job and im fighting hard to get through this and continue to remind myself that having flaws is ok,im human and im doing well,considering.
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Re: EMPATHY - Are you an Empath?

Post by liz on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:13

rainbows you are being a wonderful mother to chris,what mum doesn't let off on our kids,you have the proud mum factor about chris and that goes a long way,It shows in your diary about chris some mums will have given up but you are there fighting to the end to get him his education etc.thats what you call motherly love in the best possible way,a lot of us have not had that motherly love and protection,no you may not be a saint but a really good loving mum.and thats what its all about.
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Re: EMPATHY - Are you an Empath?

Post by lar-lar on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:14

one of my difficulties is accepting praise.

but im accepting it- thankyou.It made me feel good before i sleep.so i hope you accepy my thanks for your kind words that touched my heart.xx
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Re: EMPATHY - Are you an Empath?

Post by lar-lar on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:15

just saw i wrote' accepy' instead of accept.. lol

i accepy your praise tonight.. lol
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"After Thomas"

Post by Candlelight.kk on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:16

Lar-Lar,  been googling and found that "After Thomas" is out on DVD, but thing is I don't know how to get the link on here, thought I'd just put the details of places that stock it but then got thrown out of it "internet explorer cannot display"...  now can't get back to that place - but do have a look yourself, you're much more of an IT expert than I'll ever be  :?

I'm off to bed now - this flamin' computer's got me all stressed out.  Think its trying to tell me something ..
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"After Thomas"

Post by lar-lar on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:19

thanks! ill take a look and try get it.expert? hehe..if only you knew..im learning as i go along..wasnt too long ago that got kicked out my forum and couldnt get back in..had to go on support..took hours to get me back in!
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Post by louby loo on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:21

hi lar just reading this post and read about chris before has you know you have so much yourself but still find time for others liz is so right with what she wrote lar one special lady in my eyes take care love loubyxx karma point from me xx
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Post by lar-lar on Tue 02 May 2017, 01:22

aw...shucks,thanks looby-loo. Smile

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