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A random 'slice' of birthday kindness

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Food for thought A random 'slice' of birthday kindness

Post by Candlelight.kk on Sun 15 Sep 2019, 18:52

A little kindness goes a long way. This emotional story (in the News today) had me smiling through sad tears:

Cake and birthdays go hand in hand.
However, on her first birthday, Akeesha Rose from County Down received an extra special scrumptious treat.
Her aunt, Leah O'Brien, had placed an order for a Peppa Pig themed cake at a bakery in Banbridge.
Little did she know that when she went to collect it, another customer had paid for it and left a card for the "birthday girl".
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It read: "In honour of what would have been my little girl's first birthday, I have chosen to pay for your birthday cake.
"I am unable to buy my daughter a cake of her own today, but I hope you enjoy this one and have a fantastic birthday.
"God bless. Hannah's daddy."

'Such a kind gesture'

Ms O'Brien told BBC News NI she was "overwhelmed".
"I couldn't believe it, I was stunned," she added.
"I'd never heard of anything like this happening before.
"It was such a kind gesture, especially for this person to have thought of someone else at what must be a difficult time."
Determined to find out more about Hannah, and to thank her dad, Ms O'Brien posted pictures of the cake and card on Facebook.
"I honestly wasn't sure if the family would be happy with me posting about it or not, but I really wanted to reach out to them," she told BBC News NI.
"I wasn't expecting anywhere near the response that the post received."

'In Hannah's memory'

With thousands of people liking, sharing and commenting, it wasn't too long before Ms O'Brien uncovered the identity of Hannah's father - Gareth Brontë.
"Tuesday 10 September would've been my daughter's first birthday," he told BBC News NI.
"Unfortunately she died after eight days and I wasn't going to get the opportunity to buy her a birthday present or a birthday cake.
"But I wanted to share some kindness about in her memory.
"I walked into the bakery, asked to buy a cake and they asked if I had placed an order.
"I said: 'No, I want to pay for someone else's birthday cake' and explained the reason why."

Mr Brontë said "there were a few tears shed in the bakery" but that it just so happened there was a cake that had been ordered for a one-year-old girl.
"I had no clue who the family were, I just wanted to share a bit of good," he said.
"Some people had said my actions had restored some faith in humanity for them, but I didn't do it for that.
"I did it for Hannah."
Speaking to BBC News NI, Gareth's wife, Kirsty, said she hoped his actions would open a conversation for other parents who had lost children.
"It's nice for us to be able to talk about her and for other people to talk about Hannnah too," she said.
"I hope it will help reduce stigma around grief and that parents will be able to talk about their kids the same way as they talk about the ones that are still here."
After Mr Brontë's act of kindness, Ms O'Brien felt driven to follow suit and put money towards another stranger's cake at the bakery.


https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-northern-ireland-49676213
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Food for thought Re: A random 'slice' of birthday kindness

Post by mac on Sun 15 Sep 2019, 19:02

a lovely but desperately sad story

It's hearbreaking when your child dies, whatever their age - been there, done that..... Sad
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Post by Candlelight.kk on Sun 15 Sep 2019, 19:41

mac wrote:a lovely but desperately sad story

It's hearbreaking when your child dies, whatever their age - been there, done that..... Sad

Yes, mac - I did think of you (and some others that I know) while reading this story. Sad
'Losing' a child must surely be the most engulfing heartbreak and unbearable suffering for any parent to have to go through.

candle  A random 'slice' of birthday kindness Hug10
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Post by mac on Sun 15 Sep 2019, 20:22

I've never experienced anything so black as the despair my wife and I felt. I can't say it was any worse than any other bereaved person's grief because we each experience death at a totally personal level but for me it was literally life-changing.

My wife and I sometimes reflect on how different our life would have been had our son's death not happened but it's all conjecture - change one thing, change the world.
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Post by Misty on Mon 16 Sep 2019, 22:30

Sorry to hear about your personal grief Mac. That must be very difficult for you and your family.  Its hard and often life changing when we lose a parent but that is something that we can all at least prepare for as will inevitabley happen in most of our lives, but we dont normally expect our children to go before us.
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Food for thought Re: A random 'slice' of birthday kindness

Post by mac on Tue 17 Sep 2019, 20:43

Misty wrote:Sorry to hear about your personal grief Mac. That must be very difficult for you and your family.  Its hard and often life changing when we lose a parent but that is something that we can all at least prepare for as will inevitabley happen in most of our lives, but we dont normally expect our children to go before us.

thanks, Misty  

As the old saying goes, we all have our own cross to bear.  I've often been told such events aren't accidents or misfortune but planned as one of our incarnate experiences.  

I used to resist that argument but as I've grown old it's something I'm more inclined to accept.  Old age brings some unexpected - often unwanted - changes. Either way it had a major impact on my life as a Spiritualist and my life with my wife.  I became certain of survival and all that goes with it.  She has experienced more than I but still wasn't moved in the way or direction I was and carries uncertainty about many issues.  But we survived what we once thought we never would.  

It's one reason I now try to reassure individuals who can scarcely make it through their loss and their grief, can not believe there can be a time when life starts again with new relationships perhaps beginning.  

If I'd been told 36 years ago how things would pan out I would not have believed it!
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Post by Misty on Tue 17 Sep 2019, 22:06

mac wrote:

I used to resist that argument but as I've grown old it's something I'm more inclined to accept.  Old age brings some unexpected - often unwanted - changes.  Either way it had a major impact on my life as a Spiritualist and my life with my wife.  I became certain of survival and all that goes with it.  She has experienced more than I but still wasn't moved in the way or direction I was and carries uncertainty about many issues.  But we survived what we once thought we never would.  

It's one reason I now try to reassure individuals who can scarcely make it through their loss and their grief, can not believe there can be a time when life starts again with new relationships perhaps beginning.  

If I'd been told 36 years ago how things would pan out I would not have believed it!

Was there any particular incident that happened after your loss that made you so certain of survival, and if so how long after your loss did that happen? I woud really love to hear your story mac, but only if you are happy to talk about it here. happyheart
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Food for thought Re: A random 'slice' of birthday kindness

Post by mac on Wed 18 Sep 2019, 09:33

Misty wrote:
mac wrote:

I used to resist that argument but as I've grown old it's something I'm more inclined to accept.  Old age brings some unexpected - often unwanted - changes.  Either way it had a major impact on my life as a Spiritualist and my life with my wife.  I became certain of survival and all that goes with it.  She has experienced more than I but still wasn't moved in the way or direction I was and carries uncertainty about many issues.  But we survived what we once thought we never would.  

It's one reason I now try to reassure individuals who can scarcely make it through their loss and their grief, can not believe there can be a time when life starts again with new relationships perhaps beginning.  

If I'd been told 36 years ago how things would pan out I would not have believed it!

Was there any particular incident that happened after your loss that made you so certain of survival, and if so how long after your loss did that happen?  I woud really love to hear your story mac, but only if you are happy to talk about it here. happyheart

It's not that I'm reluctant to speak about the experiences only that I rarely do unless it's to illustrate a point. Smile

There were many small and larger occasions when events reinforced what I'd already accepted but one single point where I could identify everything actually beginning - and that was more significant for me than it would be for anyone just hearing about it. That feeling of upliftment was magnificent and 35 years on I can still feel its impact.

Then began a process which on looking back seems to have been a long succession of experiences that first taught me many new things and then reinforced the 'lessons'. Things I still write about such as psychism versus mediumship, about communication and the need for caution, about survival and what follows....

Looking back I know that what happened to me was small beer compared with what's happened to others and how they've come to do whatever it is they do. But we each have our own path to follow, I guess, and each path is important in its own way.

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